A few summers ago I finished writing a book about singleness – how to walk through its dark stages and how to maximize it in its purposeful stages. I’m currently working on revising and editing it, and as I worked through this section tonight, I thought I’d share it with you all on the blog.… Continue reading Lie #6: “Staying Friends” is Always the Most Noble Thing to Do
These poems were written at various times over various situations, and I share them, not as a plea for pity, but as a reminder that if you’ve ever felt these things, too, you’re not alone. I write to process how I feel – and at different times, I’ve felt all of these things. In the… Continue reading Poems from the Lonely Nights
Be with someone who inspires you, Who sparks creativity in you, Who makes you ponder, Who makes you pause, Who makes you present. Be with someone who makes you brave – Who helps you find courage You thought was lost In the darkness of night. Be with someone who helps you dream –… Continue reading Be With Someone
If you have someone whose gaze lingers on you, because to him you are a bit of magic in human form – savor that gaze for all its worth. If you have someone who wraps his arms around you and makes you feel safer with his presence, cherish that safety with all you’ve got. If… Continue reading If You Have Someone, Hold Them Closely
If I ever have a son, I hope I can teach him these things about what it means to be a true man of integrity. And if not, I pray that I can share it with my nephews and my boys in my classroom. And I also pray for all the men in my life… Continue reading A True Man of Integrity
Do you crave a love like what all the romantic songs and sweet quotes offer? “A love so deep the ocean would be jealous?” The kind that promises to always be faithful and never leave us? A kind that vows to know us intimately and cherish us always? Isn’t this kind of love what makes… Continue reading Do You Crave a Love Like That?
Can you wait – For the slow, steady development Of a love so precious And beautiful – Instead of rushing ahead Into something hasty, Based only on feelings And heady flirtations? Can you wait – For a bit of maturity, A bit of depth developed, And a bit of longevity promised – … Continue reading Can You Wait?
The waters of dating and romantic interest can be muddy and unclear. I used to think it was straightforward, but after the past fifteen years or so of experience, I can tell you it’s much more complicated than I once thought. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with my girlfriends that include… Continue reading On a Scale of 1 to 10, How Attracted to Her are You?
Dear sweet nice girl of sixteen – I see you laughing with that boy – That boy you call your dearest friend. I see the way you glance hopefully at him – Trying not to hope too hard he’ll glance meaningfully back – And I hear the silent sigh of regret When he asks another… Continue reading The Curse of the Nice Girl
“I remember what it was like being single.” Perhaps you genuinely do. Perhaps your season of singleness was long enough to forever imprint the deep valleys of walking through life alone into your soul. But if you got married at 25 or younger, I don’t think you truly know the depth of the challenges of… Continue reading Ten Things You Shouldn’t Say to a Single Person