“What’s your type?” people might ask those in the dating pool. Or, “He’s just not my type,” a girl might say in response to why she’s not interested in someone. Or, as some junior high boys told me recently, “Girls at this age don’t care about personality. They just care about hotness” (the girls might… Continue reading Do You Have a “Type”?
“Should you tell a guy that you like him?” “What were some of your concerns about that guy’s character?” “He told me how he felt about me. Do you think we should start dating?” My conversations about dating range from lunch-time conversations with my 8th-grade girls to coffeeshop meetups with college girls to late night… Continue reading Five Questions to Consider Before Dating Someone
Remember the “True Love Waits” movement of the early 2000s? The signing of the pledges and the wearing of the purity rings and the songs about waiting for your future husband? I was all in for that movement and was a little over-zealous in my “pursuit of purity.” And while I still fully believe that… Continue reading True Love Does Not Wait
He couldn’t explain why he wanted to make her talk–and talk to only him. How he longed for them to share knowing glances and private jokes. How when he made her laugh, he felt like the richest man in the world. He couldn’t explain how much he wanted her eyes to meet his again and… Continue reading He Couldn’t Explain
She was a plain woman. She asked not for much. A small fire in the hearth – A warm cup of tea in her hands – A window from which to watch the rain. All she needed Was a man Who took her hand in prayer, Took her head upon his shoulder, And wrapped… Continue reading She Was a Plain Woman
Your name flitted across my screen the other day and for the first time in years I felt that strange flicker of joy that always used to accompany your name. Why? I wondered. My heart had moved on and so had yours. Then there was the other one whom I hadn’t thought about in so… Continue reading But I Thought I Was Over You
Over the past few years, I have heard various pastors and speakers speak of the growing trend in young people to delay marriage and have children until their late twenties or early thirties. They speak with concern about the impact that this has on society and generally make it out to appear that these young… Continue reading Are Single People Selfish for Delaying Marriage?
I am done. I have tried so hard the past few months to give the men a try, to keep an open mind, to “consider my options,” and I can’t do it anymore. And I knew it the day I found this quote on Pinterest. This quote sums up all I’ve ever wanted in a… Continue reading The Breaking Point of the Dating Game
A few summers ago I finished writing a book about singleness – how to walk through its dark stages and how to maximize it in its purposeful stages. I’m currently working on revising and editing it, and as I worked through this section tonight, I thought I’d share it with you all on the blog.… Continue reading Lie #6: “Staying Friends” is Always the Most Noble Thing to Do
These poems were written at various times over various situations, and I share them, not as a plea for pity, but as a reminder that if you’ve ever felt these things, too, you’re not alone. I write to process how I feel – and at different times, I’ve felt all of these things. In the… Continue reading Poems from the Lonely Nights