I promise to get to know you and care about what’s important to you. I promise to listen to your voice and value your opinion. I promise to believe the best of you, no matter what has happened in previous years or even previous days. I promise to forgive you when your actions have hurt… Continue reading A Pledge to My Students
Let me let you in on a little secret about myself: I hate conflict. I hate the feeling that someone is upset with me or that I’m upset with them. I hate having to think about confronting someone about said conflict. When I teach my students about conflict resolution, the first option on the chart… Continue reading Learning to Speak the Truth in Love
I need to confess something. I have been selfish in the past about my friendships and the labels I felt it was important to put on them. I have been jealous of other people’s friendships, and I have been clingy to my own. But God is gracious to me, and His work on my heart… Continue reading Is It Necessary to Have a Best Friend?
At some point in time (probably in the 40’s or 50’s), someone decided that it was better to replace the word “sex” with the euphemism “intimacy” or “being intimate.” And because of this, to this day, many older people will blush if you use the term “intimacy” around them, assuming you’re referring to sex. But… Continue reading Intimacy Re-imagined
This year when I set out to discover the deeper meaning of the word “relationship,” I had no idea where it would take me. I had no idea of the lessons awaiting me that would begin to break down my selfishness, my pride, and my desire for attention. I had no idea that I would… Continue reading Single & Seeking a Barnabas-Like Community
Some people can’t get attached to anyone. I, on the other hand, get far too attached to people, places, things, experiences. I let them take up too much residence in my heart so that it aches painfully when I have to say goodbye. Life transitions have always been hard for me because I’ve attached so… Continue reading My Reverse Attachment Disorder
It seems we’re always on the edge of what feels safe. We talk of safe subjects, safe places, safe thoughts. We ask generic questions to which generic answers can be given. We stay with socially acceptable topics, and we dance around all that lurks beneath the surface. But safe isn’t real. And safe isn’t brave.… Continue reading Speaking Brave Words of Sanctuary