A few summers ago I finished writing a book about singleness – how to walk through its dark stages and how to maximize it in its purposeful stages. I’m currently working on revising and editing it, and as I worked through this section tonight, I thought I’d share it with you all on the blog.… Continue reading Lie #6: “Staying Friends” is Always the Most Noble Thing to Do
I had a lot of intense emotions from ages 18 to 25. That much was clear after reading those unfiltered computer journal entries of mine. But they were naïve. I won’t deny that they were real. There was just so much that I didn’t know. And now, when I look back on my half-formed ideas… Continue reading I Asked God for Marriage. And He Gave Me Something Far Better.
These poems were written at various times over various situations, and I share them, not as a plea for pity, but as a reminder that if you’ve ever felt these things, too, you’re not alone. I write to process how I feel – and at different times, I’ve felt all of these things. In the… Continue reading Poems from the Lonely Nights
Be with someone who inspires you, Who sparks creativity in you, Who makes you ponder, Who makes you pause, Who makes you present. Be with someone who makes you brave – Who helps you find courage You thought was lost In the darkness of night. Be with someone who helps you dream –… Continue reading Be With Someone
If you have someone whose gaze lingers on you, because to him you are a bit of magic in human form – savor that gaze for all its worth. If you have someone who wraps his arms around you and makes you feel safer with his presence, cherish that safety with all you’ve got. If… Continue reading If You Have Someone, Hold Them Closely
I know what it is I’m longing for. The eye contact when we’re laughing together. The banter and teasing that comes from knowing a person so well. A private store of memories between the two of us that form a bond no one else can share. A deep, deep understanding of another’s soul that can… Continue reading A Lament of the Dying Spark
All my life I longed for kids of my own. I dreamed about it from as early on as I can remember. It was the reason I tenderly named all my dolls and took care of them as if they were real – why I spent two days in bed because I acted out giving… Continue reading Becoming the Mother I Never Thought I’d Be
Please understand, my friend. I want to be happy for you. I am happy for you. I’m so glad you don’t have to bear the pain anymore. But there are times when that pain overwhelms my own heart because I’m still in the longing season. And it’s times like those when I just don’t have… Continue reading And If I’m Silent, Please Know This …
Can you wait – For the slow, steady development Of a love so precious And beautiful – Instead of rushing ahead Into something hasty, Based only on feelings And heady flirtations? Can you wait – For a bit of maturity, A bit of depth developed, And a bit of longevity promised – … Continue reading Can You Wait?
The waters of dating and romantic interest can be muddy and unclear. I used to think it was straightforward, but after the past fifteen years or so of experience, I can tell you it’s much more complicated than I once thought. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with my girlfriends that include… Continue reading On a Scale of 1 to 10, How Attracted to Her are You?