Recently I let the realization sink in that I have bought into the culture’s idols of romanticism and individualism for far too long. I’ve let them become my default, along with the idol of marriage that often shows up in the church, and have encouraged and fed them by filtering my life’s story around them.… Continue reading Turning Off the Romantic Default Switch
Dear friend, I see you sitting there At the crossroads Of weariness and discouragement. I see the tears that gather and fall As you try to be so brave, Bearing the pain of your loneliness. And I long for the day When the one will appear Whose eyes will light up When you… Continue reading He Has Not Abandoned Us
Over the past few years, I have heard various pastors and speakers speak of the growing trend in young people to delay marriage and have children until their late twenties or early thirties. They speak with concern about the impact that this has on society and generally make it out to appear that these young… Continue reading Are Single People Selfish for Delaying Marriage?
I am done. I have tried so hard the past few months to give the men a try, to keep an open mind, to “consider my options,” and I can’t do it anymore. And I knew it the day I found this quote on Pinterest. This quote sums up all I’ve ever wanted in a… Continue reading The Breaking Point of the Dating Game
Tell Me Tell me – Do you know What it’s like To be me? I feel lost at sea Sometimes – A sea of strangers, A sea of unfamiliarity, A sea of grief. Tell me – Do you know What it’s like To grieve For things You’ve never had? I sometimes Cry… Continue reading The Darkness Where He Meets Me
Maybe it’s better that I should live alone Maybe it’s better That I should live alone – That silence soothes my tired brain As I walk through my morning routine. Maybe it’s better That I don’t have to worry About sharing shower time Or kitchen space as I race the clock. Maybe it’s… Continue reading Maybe It’s Better That I Should Live Alone
A few summers ago I finished writing a book about singleness – how to walk through its dark stages and how to maximize it in its purposeful stages. I’m currently working on revising and editing it, and as I worked through this section tonight, I thought I’d share it with you all on the blog.… Continue reading Lie #6: “Staying Friends” is Always the Most Noble Thing to Do
I had a lot of intense emotions from ages 18 to 25. That much was clear after reading those unfiltered computer journal entries of mine. But they were naïve. I won’t deny that they were real. There was just so much that I didn’t know. And now, when I look back on my half-formed ideas… Continue reading I Asked God for Marriage. And He Gave Me Something Far Better.
These poems were written at various times over various situations, and I share them, not as a plea for pity, but as a reminder that if you’ve ever felt these things, too, you’re not alone. I write to process how I feel – and at different times, I’ve felt all of these things. In the… Continue reading Poems from the Lonely Nights
Be with someone who inspires you, Who sparks creativity in you, Who makes you ponder, Who makes you pause, Who makes you present. Be with someone who makes you brave – Who helps you find courage You thought was lost In the darkness of night. Be with someone who helps you dream –… Continue reading Be With Someone