(Much of this content first appeared in a seminar I gave in spring 2018 entitled “Redeemed Womanhood: An Alternative to Cultural Feminism.”) I am a woman. I am a woman who loves teaching. I am a woman who loves leadership. I am a woman who loves public speaking and sharing her thoughts and ideas. I… Continue reading Why I’m Not a Feminist – But Why I Think Femininity is Worth Fighting For
A few summers ago I finished writing a book about singleness – how to walk through its dark stages and how to maximize it in its purposeful stages. I’m currently working on revising and editing it, and as I worked through this section tonight, I thought I’d share it with you all on the blog.… Continue reading Lie #6: “Staying Friends” is Always the Most Noble Thing to Do
I was at Walmart, trying to hurriedly finish my shopping before the next thing I needed to be at, when a man passing by me stopped and said, “Not to be a weirdo, but you are absolutely beautiful.” I gave a flustered laugh and a “Thank you so much” before hurrying on my way, but… Continue reading By the Way, Men – It’s Still Okay to Give Ladies Compliments
The waters of dating and romantic interest can be muddy and unclear. I used to think it was straightforward, but after the past fifteen years or so of experience, I can tell you it’s much more complicated than I once thought. I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with my girlfriends that include… Continue reading On a Scale of 1 to 10, How Attracted to Her are You?
Dear sweet nice girl of sixteen – I see you laughing with that boy – That boy you call your dearest friend. I see the way you glance hopefully at him – Trying not to hope too hard he’ll glance meaningfully back – And I hear the silent sigh of regret When he asks another… Continue reading The Curse of the Nice Girl
I am proud to say I am a woman. I love being feminine, and I love being a strong woman who knows how to be independent and a leader. I love how God has wired me and gifted me with mothering and nurturing instincts. I adore making a place a home and giving people a… Continue reading I Want You to be the Man
We all want to be found beautiful. Attractive. Someone who makes someone else’s heart beat faster for just a moment. Someone who holds another’s gaze for a fraction longer than necessary. And of course, our society has capitalized on this desire and taken the beauty obsession to extreme, unhealthy measures – placing unrealistic expectations on… Continue reading How Rare is the Man
Yesterday someone was telling me about this study that was done on subtle gender biases in society that make women feel inferior to men – like the fact that all of the bathroom signs for women indicate a stick figure in a skirt. Apparently this makes women feel subconsciously inferior to men because figures in… Continue reading I Can Be a Woman Who Enjoys Wearing Dresses – and Still Be a Leader
She was strong, but she wasn’t hard. She still had child-like wonder awake beneath her skin, and an innocent love of beauty woven into her sinews. She felt things deeply and wasn’t afraid to share them with others – but she was a little afraid she’d never find someone else who felt them as deeply… Continue reading For All the Girls Who Just Don’t Feel Like Enough
The Vintage Girl 